Titles and Role Playing

A few things, recently got me noodling on this topic.  A friend posted an article on Facebook entitled The Key To Happiness: A Taboo for Adults.   With a title like that, how could I not read it, right?!?  Anyway, the thesis of the article is that, as adults, many of us lose the ability to play.   We get all serious, and junk!   Now, personally, I've never been afflicted with this malady, but I see it all around me.  I think this observation regarding play extends to some of the "Fun in the Workplace" fads that occasionally crop up as well.  Again, that's not a problem I've ever had.  My office door is plastered with cute cat pictures, and cut-outs of favorite cartoons.  But I digress.

The next thing that got me thinkin' was this blog entry by Belle, over on Nuts 4 Belle's blog.  She has been struggling with getting into character as a Domme.  As a loving Wife and Mother, she just can't imagine being cruel to her husband.  However, she can imagine this "third person" named Belle, who can do all these things he craves.  She's role-playing Belle to see if this will help her over the hurdle.  I think this is brilliant, and I wish them all the best!

I think you may see my next point coming, now.  Role playing in a D/s context, or even just a "Chastity as a bedroom game" context is just a form of play.  I think it's healthy.  I think it's wonderful.  I think it's fun.

Now, taking it a step further.  I know one well known chastity blogging celebrity has a great deal of trouble with titles.  This author balks at people who call themselves "Mistress" or "Goddess" either in their relationships or in the various online forums.  Now, certainly, some of these people are in D/s or Femdom relationships, but some are not.  Still, for me, this is all part of the role play. If it helps you get into the character, and the spirit of what you are trying to achieve as a couple, I think it's a good thing.

We can take a lesson from our children. Be playful,.  Be the subject to her Queen, the slave to her Mistress, the pet to her Owner.  Just have fun with it.  We all need more play, and role-play in our lives.   It's a shame that so many of us have given up play for the sake of being grown-up.   I thank the Gods I never have!  I couldn't live that way.

Now, if you'll excuse me, I need to go wiggle a string for my kitty, and tickle my wife's toes before I head off to work.