Wednesday, January 26, 2011

Titles and Role Playing

A few things, recently got me noodling on this topic.  A friend posted an article on Facebook entitled The Key To Happiness: A Taboo for Adults.   With a title like that, how could I not read it, right?!?  Anyway, the thesis of the article is that, as adults, many of us lose the ability to play.   We get all serious, and junk!   Now, personally, I've never been afflicted with this malady, but I see it all around me.  I think this observation regarding play extends to some of the "Fun in the Workplace" fads that occasionally crop up as well.  Again, that's not a problem I've ever had.  My office door is plastered with cute cat pictures, and cut-outs of favorite cartoons.  But I digress.

The next thing that got me thinkin' was this blog entry by Belle, over on Nuts 4 Belle's blog.  She has been struggling with getting into character as a Domme.  As a loving Wife and Mother, she just can't imagine being cruel to her husband.  However, she can imagine this "third person" named Belle, who can do all these things he craves.  She's role-playing Belle to see if this will help her over the hurdle.  I think this is brilliant, and I wish them all the best!

I think you may see my next point coming, now.  Role playing in a D/s context, or even just a "Chastity as a bedroom game" context is just a form of play.  I think it's healthy.  I think it's wonderful.  I think it's fun.

Now, taking it a step further.  I know one well known chastity blogging celebrity has a great deal of trouble with titles.  This author balks at people who call themselves "Mistress" or "Goddess" either in their relationships or in the various online forums.  Now, certainly, some of these people are in D/s or Femdom relationships, but some are not.  Still, for me, this is all part of the role play. If it helps you get into the character, and the spirit of what you are trying to achieve as a couple, I think it's a good thing.

We can take a lesson from our children. Be playful,.  Be the subject to her Queen, the slave to her Mistress, the pet to her Owner.  Just have fun with it.  We all need more play, and role-play in our lives.   It's a shame that so many of us have given up play for the sake of being grown-up.   I thank the Gods I never have!  I couldn't live that way.

Now, if you'll excuse me, I need to go wiggle a string for my kitty, and tickle my wife's toes before I head off to work.


  1. Great post, Mike. Thanks!

    I agree, I think jnuts and Belle came up with a great idea and a terrific way to approach "the dom/sub thing." Face it, handing over the keys is a submissive act so even if a couple says, "We're not D/s!" there is an undercurrent of that in chastity. So instead of trying to deny it, play with it. It doesn't have to become a lifestyle nor a defining characteristic of a relationship, but it can be a lot of fun. Ab and I have been playing around with being Queen and slave. I don't know why but I picture myself as Cleopatra and he's one of those Egyptian guys off building a pyramid. LOL.


  2. Good post. Recently, I have been considering the role of a historical eunuch. 24/7 service submissive with no hope of sex ever, but content in service (sexual and domestic) to his owner.


  3. Thanks for not making me sound crazy :) Actually playing Belle is making it seem more like a game and less like a lifestyle, which is exactly what we intended.

  4. Belle, that's awesome. I hope the game-like aspects can keep it all in perspective and make it enjoyable for both of you! :-)

    Dev, I can just SEE you as Cleopatra..... though I don't think all those old Egyptian Pharaoh movies from the 60's had hundreds of buff, gay slaves in them! lol

  5. I would like to say that being a "well-known chastity blogging celebrity" isn't worth the paper it's printed on (heh) as far as entitling one to question the choices of others - especially on something as personal as bedroom nicknames! Hmmph! Some people are way too concerned about what others are getting up to.

    There is a "well-known chastity blogging celebrity" whose blog I occasionally read (I wonder if it is the same one) but who has so much focus on selling things that I am turned off in general, so I don't go there frequently. This person also seems to feel entitled to tell others all sorts of things about how it "should" be done. Hogwash! It *should* be done in a way that works for the people involved. PERIOD. Well-known chastity blogging celebrities do not know our lives.

  6. Thanks for your comment, Kiki. I wholeheartedly agree. :-)